Make me an instrument of peace...

I am posting this anonymously for a very special person:

She wrote to me:

"I didn't want to publicly post something it feels like praying in public to me. But for Theo......

I visited a disabled person and bought groceries to take to the home.  I cleared the snow from the sidewalk and front porch and while I was there.

I changed the sheets and made the bed, fixed a small meal and walked the dog.

I also called my sister and forgave her for telling a lie about me after she had apologized to me and said, 'I don't know why I said that about you.'

My prayer is to be more forgiving than forgiven and more tolerant of others who are emotionally challenged by life."

I love these kindnesses and knowing who did them and why, makes them even more special to me.  I sent her a message telling her that her kindnesses and her comments about them reminded me of St. Francis of Assisi's famous prayer, that, no matter what a person's religion is, can certainly be applicable in any time and place. If we all prayed this prayer earnestly every day--even if we are praying it to ourselves--the world would be a better place.

Lord, make me an instrument of your peace.

Where there is hatred, let me sow love.
Where there is injury, pardon.
Where there is doubt, faith.
Lord, make me an instrument of your peace.
Where there is hatred, let me sow love.
Where there is injury, pardon.
Where there is doubt, faith.
Where there is despair, hope.
Where there is darkness, light.
Where there is sadness, joy.
O Divine Master,
grant that I may not so much seek to be consoled, as to console;
to be understood, as to understand;
to be loved, as to love.
For it is in giving that we receive.
It is in pardoning that we are pardoned,
and it is in dying that we are born to Eternal Life.
Where there is despair, hope.
Where there is darkness, light.
Where there is sadness, joy.
O Divine Master,
grant that I may not so much seek to be consoled, as to console;
to be understood, as to understand;
to be loved, as to love.
For it is in giving that we receive.
It is in pardoning that we are pardoned,
and it is in dying that we are born to Eternal Life.


Amen

Being Present...thank you Meg.

I don't want you to think I forgot, because I never forget Theo. He is a part of my daily meditations and prayers: on my way to work or in the few moments when the house is quiet.

This year I was able to help do something special in his and my mom's memory. Our friend Anne Carpenter is dying of lung cancer. She is a special person in the life of our family.  She facilitated the adoption of our oldest boys. She was part teacher, supporter, helper, and a lifeline in a very stressful time in our lives. As an adoptive parent herself, she put her life into her work for over 30 years. We have kept in touch with her throughout her retirement and she has been able to watch all the boys grow.

This past Thursday evening, we went to her house to sing Christmas carols (off-key, of course). The whole family went and she was able to see us all. We only stayed for 10 minutes, but she was laughing at the boys' silly lyrics and singing along with us. What a wonderful memory for our family and hers in what is an otherwise sad situation and having to say goodbye to each other. It was such a small thing but I think it made a lasting example for my boys.  It is so important to seek out opportunities to show how much someone means to you and to be present, especially during difficult times.

much love this christmas season,

meg

More Kindnesses this Christmas Eve....

After my last day of classes walking to my car I found an IPod touch laying on the ground, and picked it up and turned it into VCU.


Also, my grandma asked me to put her Santa on top of her Christmas tree, so I went over after work to put it up and realized she hadn't put up any lights or ornaments yet. I decorated her whole tree for her while she was out playing bridge.

Merry Christmas,

--- Pete





One hot September afternoon I was walking to Rite Aid with my roommate. As we walked down Broad Street, we passed a homeless man who was holding a sign that said it was his birthday. We went into Rite Aid and I felt sad that he was all alone on his birthday, so I bought him a hostess cupcake and a candle. I asked the man behind the counter for some matches and after we checked out, we found the man again, lit up the candle, and we sung him "Happy Birthday". We asked him to make a wish and he said, "I wish that I live to see my 41st birthday." That broke my heart and I wished him well and we headed off.

Every chance that I get, I make sure to bring extra food to the people who are homeless or don't have a meal to eat. I make sure to talk to them as opposed to just ignoring them. Most of them have interesting stories that can change your point of view on a lot of things. They are really wonderful, friendly people and I am blessed to be able to meet them and listen to them.

--- Tori

Giving to her community...

I always think of Theo at Christmas. We donate to a nearby park that is being developed...an old family farm that they are protecting from development to use as a recreational park. The next donation that we will make will be in Theo's name. What a great way to celebrate Theo down in here Georgia.

~Michelle Beaubien Witte

Friends of Mabry Park is a community non-profit, volunteer organization in Georgia where the community is working to promote the development of their beautiful park.

Added by Michelle:

"I got this response today from the guy who is coordinating donations for the park. I wrote him asking about making donations towards specific things in the park in people's names. I would love to do something like this with Theo's name and maybe a dragonfly image. I will let you know sweet love. It will be a place that my children and many others will find a lot of joy...and it backs up to our neighborhood in East Cobb.

He said, 'The Master Plan process will start in January. This will last 3-4 months and when completed, we will have all the elements of the park laid out. At that point, we can start laying out the elements such as benches, trees, playgrounds, etc. and the ability to donate and name an item. We really like this idea and look forward to presenting it everyone in the coming months.' "

How beautiful Michelle~! Thank you so much, what a beautiful gift. So much love to you and your family this Christmas Eve morning.

Love you,
Karla

...to stop and listen

One of the friends I've made since I've started school was having a really rough time with his family during the last two weeks of the semester. Everyone around him was so stressed out and busy with school and finals with no time to stop and listen, and he just
felt really alone at college and like he had no one to talk to. I just sat down with him for a long time and listened to what he had to say. It felt good to be there for someone when they thought they had no one to talk to because that's what I'd want someone to do for me. Happy Holidays!
---Christina Diep

In honor of Theo and Julie's Dad~

Karla -
I wasn't sure what I was going to do this year, but I kept waiting for something to present itself. I went to a yoga class that I teach on Tuesday and one of my students had a card for me. It had kind words and a $10 bill in it. I told the student I couldn't accept that money, but she insisted. On the drive home, it hit me, I will take the $10 and put some money with it, and send it to the Central Va Foodbank. While writing the check, I thought of Theo and my Dad; two of the most extraordinary people that I have ever met. I put a return address label with a dragonfly on it.
Happy Holidays to you, Jamie and Lula. I love keeping up with you on Facebook.

Love to you and a Blessed New Year!

Julie

The Newest Kindness--From my beautiful friends Pam and JB

Jamie, Karla, Lula-
JB & I live in a somewhat transitional neighborhood- the typical scenario of urban revitalization. Most of our neighbors are wonderful, but there is the one house across the street.... rental, single mom, 5 kids (as far as we can tell). The kids are often a nightmare- throwing rocks, loud music, fighting, teasing their dog- and we have yelled at them so many times over the past couple of years. They are left unsupervised to play in basically the street, and their boredom leads to trouble.
The last time that I yelled at them (they were trying to throw batteries over our house), I had a guilty feeling. I started thinking about how we have witnessed their mother scream and curse at them, and imagining what a lonely, empty life they likely lead. JB commented that the anger and frustration is visible in the eyes of the oldest boy.

We have decided to fill a box with books, toys, journals, etc. and leave it on their front porch on Christmas day. We will probably tag it "From Santa" and definitely give it a dragonfly stamp. Maybe it will be a little beacon of light in what looks to be a miserable home situation.
WE LOVE YOU and will be thinking of you through the holidays.

Hug you shouldahs,

Pam n JB

New posts from my girls~

From Jen D'Surney--aka Jen Emory:

"Cece actually did the good deed - I was just the chauffer. She came to me the other day and out of the blue said that she wanted to make cards for the sick kids in hospitals. Just when I think she is an absolute terror she goes and pulls something like this. So we all sat at the kitchen table and made cards for kids in Children's and delivered them. In honor of Theo.

Hugs and kisses and a very Merry Christmas to your family!"
And from Angela Noel Brittingham:
"Merry Christmas! I am so excited that I actually got to see your family in person the other day!! You all look great, and it warmed my heart! 

For Theo this year, I have decided to sign on as a reader with my church and their Spanish community help program. We have a program that helps a mostly Spanish speaking community by providing them with church services, clothes, food, and ESL support. They started a project called Booknet where people volunteer to read to the kids. It had been on my heart to help out with this, but I kept wondering about the time, and how I would be able to do it. When I got your email, I decided to move forward and do it!! 

I will be making calls and setting things up soon. I will be thinking of Theo every time I visit and do my best to help the kids read!

I am always amazed how opportunities to give present themselves around the time of your email. What a wonderful way to represent Theo and share some love. I truly look forward to this every year."

I cannot say how much I love you both Angela and D'Surney. And the best part is that I know that I don't have to say how much I love you for you both to know. 3 snaps and big 'ol Pi Delt triangle.

XOXOX to you and yours.

Caritas Dinner ~

Last Wednesday, our family volunteered with other families who attend Lula's pre-school, St. Thomas Day School, to prepare, serve and share in a meal with local Richmond families who are currently homeless.  St.Thomas Episcopal Church hosts a temporary shelter each year at this time for Caritas, Richmond's largest and most inclusive shelter.  Caritas offers help to many members of the population who are ineligible for services at many other shelters, including adults facing addiction, large families, families with fathers, families with adolescent sons.

Day School families provided breads, salads, lasagnes, fruits, desserts and drinks.  A few of Jamie's students---Elisa, Pooja, and Melissa, as well as Elisa's friend---volunteered to help as well.  Lula had a great time having dinner with some of her friends from school, and meeting some new kids as well. All of us spent time with members of the families recieving help from the emergency shelter.  Lula kept saying, "We're having dinner with the families!"

It is so important to teach our children the importance of giving and sharing with others who need our help,this time of year especially, but all year round. We are very grateful to Caritas and to St. Thomas for giving us this opportunity to give and perform service and kindness in Theo's honor.

Acts of Kindness for Friends

I helped my boyfriend's family get their house decorated and put up lights outside because his dad is a working an electrical job that requires him to travel 2 hours back and forth every day and was too tired to help put them up


---Taylor Nininger.



My suite mate is an art major and has been super overwhelmed. She was having a breakdown because there was no way she was going to finish her art project. In high school I took AP Art two years in a row, in other words I have a passion for art. Her project was due on Tuesday morning. I went to Bowe Street Parking Deck with her and helped her with her project until 6 in the morning. Everyone loved her work and she was so happy and thankful for the support and help. I attached a photo of the work. Pretty awesome huh?

---Ashley Goldman